Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Goodbye, Bil.
Sometimes, if you’re lucky, your life’s path will intersect that of another’s and you’ll be better off for it, no matter how brief the encounter. A few weeks ago, a man I barely knew but greatly admired died, and I’ve been trying – in the days since – to put into words just why his passing pains me as much as it does.
I met Bil Gilbert in 1973 or ’74, can’t remember which. The occasion was a get-together to celebrate the return of my (first)ex-husband’s cousin from a trip with Bil to the Arctic Circle. I remember thinking, when we were introduced, that he was a lot shorter than I thought he might be, and a heck of a lot scruffier. But, then, Bil wasn’t put on this earth to grace the cover of GQ or Playgirl magazines. Bil was here to write (among a great many other things), and he did a damned fine job of it.
I wasn’t in Bil’s circle of friends, though I would have liked to be. He had a wicked sense of humor and was a great storyteller. Bil paid attention to the people around him, almost as if he were studying them with the same interest as the wild animals that caught his attention. While he gave me the impression he didn’t suffer fools, gladly or otherwise, he was civil in letting you know you were an idiot. At least, that was my experience as a result of an incident involving me, my First Husband and a beautiful black snake I almost drove over. FH and I thought, for some long forgotten (and ill-conceived) notion, that it would make a fantastic gift for his cousin, whose house we were leaving after a short visit. We, rather too gleefully for our ages, hurried back to Cousin’s house to bestow upon him our great offering. Bil was visiting there the day we acted the fools, and his ultra-quiet suggestion that we put the snake back where we found it made us snap out of our silliness and do precisely that. I believe Bil was one of those people who could wield sharp words so skillfully that you wouldn’t know you had been cut until you stood up and your butt fell off.
Most of what I know – or think I know – about Bil Gilbert I’ve learned from his writing, for, as I mentioned above, I barely knew him. I think I’ve encountered him four, maybe five, times since that first meeting thirty-eight or so years ago. I wish there had been more occasions. There were so many things about his life I wanted to ask him, so many of his stories I wanted to hear. He unknowingly fostered my continuing interest in crows and other corvids. Bil lived the kind of life I told myself, when I was twelve years old, I would have: the life of an adventurer, an explorer and a writer. I think that’s what drew me to him and made me want to be in his circle of friends.
However, I am glad to have met him, to have crossed paths with him, no matter how few and far between the meetings. The last time I spoke with him was at Cousin’s 50th birthday. I was telling him observations I’ve made from watching my backyard crows. Bil said I should write them and submit them to the newsletter for an organization he started, the American Society of Crows and Ravens. I haven’t yet, but his encouragement meant more to me than any I’ve ever received from anyone else. I’ll remember Bil and his kindness forever.
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Crow Time

(I don't remember whose art this is at the top of this post. I found this image years ago, when I was collecting crow pictures for reference material, so I apologize for using uncredited art. I shall look on the Internet to try to find this again, and give full credit when I do.)
The crows are back. Now that the cat who used to live here has moved in with daughter and grandson, they've begun coming into the backyard again. I have missed them very much. They used to perch in the larches and the oak each morning for their gab-fest...and to wake me, too, I believe. They knew I soon would appear on the sidewalk with a plate full of hot dog pieces for their morning snack. If I managed to beat them to the yard, I would whistle for them. Off in the distance, I'd hear them talking to one another, then would see a couple of them fly overhead, silent, watching me as they did a flyby. The first ones would hightail it back to the arboretum in a straight line, the opposite of the meandering approach and circular flybys. About halfway back, they began calling to the ones left behind. I liked to imagine they were quoting the morning menu.
This is the time of year that nesting pairs have begun or are nearly finished building or repairing nests, having dispensed with the courtship/bonding rituals a couple of weeks earlier. During the courtship/bonding period, males break off twigs to present to the females, perhaps as engagement tokens, or - more likely - to prove they can provide nesting materials. Truthfully, I have no idea why they do this, but they're funny to watch as they do. One year I watched a male present his twig five or six times to the female he wooed, only to have her rebuff him and his twig. Finally, he went to the farther end of the branch, set the twig under his foot, picked up the end opposite the one he had been holding, and presented it again. Ha! This time she accepted the twig and the romance commenced.
Last spring, one of the unmated yearlings claimed the tip of the tallest larch in the backyard. The first part of the morning, he cawed loudly in all directions, chest puffed up, body swaying in the breeze. A few of the older birds, including the pair I think are his parents, flew by, cawing once, as if to say, "Yeah, we see you." Mr. Show-off puffed up even more and shook the tree top. He cawed a couple more times, then began stripping off the small twigs, starting at the one just under the very tip, down to about a foot below where he sat. By the time he finished tearing off the tender twigs, the tree top resembled something Dr. Seuss might have drawn. It still looks that way, almost a year later. What was that all about, I wonder.
This morning, one of the older birds took up his (might be her, don't know) favorite perch in the sassafras tree outside my window, just before daybreak, and called the sun up. Of course, I got up, too, and turned on the bedside lamp. When I lifted the shade, I came eye to eye with my alarm clock. For just a few seconds we gazed at each other; a small connection between two Others - the Crow and the not-Crow. With one great flap of his wings, he was gone, leaving behind a crow-shaped hole (as Plutarch once said) in the air.
I'm so glad they're back.
(c) 2010 Martha McLemore
Sunday, December 20, 2009
I Miss My Camera.

Sunday, June 14, 2009
Song Birds

Saturday, May 30, 2009
Breakfast
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Sunday Morning
Monday, February 16, 2009
Crocitation 1: I am Crow
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Michelle's Challenge



An aretaloger is one who writes or recites aretologies, the name for sacred biographies. See : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aretalogy. Another definition of aretologer is braggart, one who is annoyingly boastful. Crows sometimes seem excessively boastful, especially after they've put one over on some hapless cat or human who had the effrontery to cross the crow's path.
Crocitation means caws, cawing or croaking. Crocitation can refer to the sound of frog and toad songs, or the cries of seagulls, too. The word makes me think of "recitation," which is how I'll use it in a separate post.
Nidifice means nest. I used to have a blog titled "Sofie's Nest," but I closed it out. It was full of pain and angst about my crumbling marriage (non-marriage, actually) to a man who turned out to have one too many psycho-sexual disorders than I could handle. Who needs the reminder?
So, if I can get my crap together, I'll post something using the words I adopted.
(c) 2009 Martha McLemore
Thursday, January 22, 2009
The Dance of the Crows
This is the season when many birds begin their mating and nesting rituals; some, in fact, have been at it for a month or so already. While mating is not the last thing on my mind during the freezing season, it is so far down the list right now that it might as well be. All I can think of lately is staying warm while trying to make my fuel oil supply last as long as possible. ...
Not so the other crows, the feathered ones; the True-hearts. Several times in the last couple of weeks I’ve watched their prelude to The Dance, that elegant, persistent and endearing ritual of bonding and avian seduction I look forward to each winter.
It seems to begin with The Strut, a behavior easily overlooked because it is so common. (I say ‘seems to begin’ because this is the first behavior I notice. They could have been chatting about this for weeks before I started paying attention.) Crows don’t walk so much as they strut wherever they go; swagger, even – especially when they’re cawing and walking at the same time.
The male (I’m making another assumption here, because I have no way of knowing which bird is male and which is female) holds himself as erect as crow physiology will allow, which drops his tail, and sticks out his chest. He struts near the female, but doesn’t appear to look at her. She doesn’t give him the time of day; turns away in a coquettish manner. The seasoned male persists in his antics, drawing a little closer with each rebuff.
She continues turning away, but she begins to look over her shoulder for a split second before he’s completely out of sight. Eventually, he’s close enough to look her in the eye and stay with her, step for step, as she turns this way and that. He doesn’t block her way, just insists on being close at hand...wing, I guess; close at wing.
The Dance picks up tempo when the male bows toward the female and begins to flutter his wings ever so slightly. His behavior now reminds me of the juveniles who have grown big enough to leave the nest, but who still beg food from their parents and from the older sibling who stayed behind to assist with the new clutch.
She bows, then throws her head back, makes a gurgling sound and flutters half-heartedly toward the male. He back-steps from his partner and bows lower still, wings at half-mast flutter this time. He stomps three or four times in rapid succession, como el flamenco, then abruptly stops.
Neither bird moves for half a minute or so.
She breaks the stalemate, turning away from him, this time with no backwards glance. He stands still for a few seconds longer before shaking himself, quickly checking for something in his wing-pits. (Do crows have b.o.?)
Caw-CAW! He has her number. She betrayed her interest in him with her flutter and her bow. He starts over. His caw this time is long and low, almost a growl.
“It is only a matter of time, Corazón, until you are mine!”
She shakes her tail and ruffles her feathers, ignoring his caws and his strutting. She extends her wings out to the sides of her body, her primaries splayed like the fringe on the flamenca’s montone. Her action is an invitation: he accepts.
The Dance of the Crows goes on.
(All rights reserved. Martha McLemore 2009)

